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Perfectionism will get you every time. 

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April 16, 2014

New digs

It goes without saying that there’s been a change or two around here. Even the definition of ‘here’ has changed.

Those of you who have been in contact with me over the past six months or so knew of the life changes that I was unprepared to speak of publicly on this blog. Jeff and I agreed to divorce some number of months ago, and I immediately began to put plans in place to relocate to Portland, Oregon. 

April 3, 2014

improbability

He remembers how he got here. I don’t. I’m not sure I ever asked, but through time, patience, and persistence, his name became a familiar one to me. Emails winged back and forth between Australia and the States on a slow, irregular basis, until eventually they were anticipated and savored things. At some point, I took for granted that from time to time, Lukas’s name would pop up in my inbox, with updates and thoughts and reactions.

December 30, 2013

Unbridal trousseau

I’m aware as I write this how fortunate I’ve been. Nearly three years ago, I faced complete and utter disaster: personal, fiscal, emotional, social. The low points were too many to count, but I remember having to consider, seriously, options as drastic as executing a divorce against a comatose man in order to protect our home.

As I am beginning the process of packing up to leave, the irony of that previous statement is not lost on me.

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November 23, 2013

Lessons

I’m trying to hold fast to my promise to take the most dignified path possible out of my marriage. Say nothing publicly, ruin no friendships, leave Jeff every chance possible to make a good life for himself once I am gone. I got a taste yesterday, though, of just how angry I am, and just how easy it would be to scorch the earth behind me. How tempting.

November 10, 2013

Chocolate chip banana bread

Before I forget – again – I’m lodging this recipe from esmerel, who says I must make this at least once and try it:

Makes 2 loaves

November 3, 2013

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